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Shot Down & Shut Down. Why We Feel Disconnected in Relationships.

We easily sense when we feel disconnected in our relationships. But it’s less obvious to decipher why. For that matter, when we say “disconnected,” we usually mean we crave belongingness and security. We want to feel lovable and capable. Significant to someone....
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Auld Lang Syne. A Single Poem Atop My Desk.

A single poem sits atop my desk.  Since long before becoming a licensed psychotherapist or a postgraduate-trained couples counselor, I’ve had it there. And while I read it often, in this pressure filled world, it’s still hard to live by. So for all the days past and...
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Words Get in The Way. When Not to Speak.

So often, words get in the way.  In an attempt for connection, we unknowingly push it away. We can’t help but pepper another with platitudes and not-so-subtle questions.  And, whether we’re aware of it or not, we are not talking for the sake of the other.  We are...
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Depression & Anger: Knowing What You Really Want In Life

What do you really want in life? Many of us stopped imagining or trying long ago. Instead, depression set in. Or has it been anger? After all, depression is sometimes the result of repressed anger, and anger is a major clue to one’s needs and wants. I know, why didn’t...
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Bipartisan Marriage: Klee In Brides Magazine

When it comes to bipartisan marriage, journalist Kase Wickman rang my phone for her clever piece in BRIDES Magazine:  In the Age of Trump, Is the Bipartisan Marriage Dead?  Put another way, if you can’t tolerate each other’s politics, how are you going to handle...
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Humor Makes Happy Relationships

Humor makes happy relationships. Not to be confused with sarcasm or teasing, humor is one our most effective coping mechanisms.  Just consider the Academy-Award nominated movie Life Is Beautiful.  Humor allows us to experience an escape from life’s inescapable predicaments....
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Lying in a Relationship

Lying in a relationship. One of our gravest upsets. When I was twenty-four, I opened the trunk of my husband’s Buick and my mind fell into despair. Stuffed behind the scuzzy spare tire in a crumpled bag, a brand new pair of L.L. Bean rag wool muk-luk slippers languished....
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Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable. A Reason By Chödrön

Get comfortable with the uncomfortable, because it is the key to realizing happiness. The popular writer Pema Chödrön, who was born Dierdre Brown in New Jersey (but, hey, that’s another story) put it this way: “. . .the pain that you’re resisting cuts you off from...
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The Confines Of An Open Marriage

Let’s consider the confines of an open marriage. Yes, an open marriage. Yes, the kind where you and your spouse can date and have sex with others, outside the marriage. This past month, The Times Magazine published a challenging and intriguing article by Susan Dominus that...
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Long Marriages Breaking Up and Starting Fresh

Long marriages. “Breaking up and starting fresh, which everyone around you seems to be doing, can begin to look like a wonderful and altogether logical proposition. . .” Humph. The title was attention-getting enough when a few years back Ada Calhoun wrote those words...
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