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Deciding or Sliding Into a Relationship

When it comes to a relationship, the majority of us seem to slide into them.  Unfortunately, sliding is not deciding. It is a route to mid-life crises. For instance, take living together: Researchers at the University of Colorado found that two-thirds of us just sort of slide...
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Economists Have Two Qs To Predict Divorce

Economists have two Qs for you to ask yourself: 1. On a scale of one to five, how do you think your level of happiness would be if you and your partner separated? One, being awful and five being better. 2. How do you think your partner’s level of happiness would be if the...
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Auditioning for Love and Attention

Ever feel like you might as well be auditioning for love and attention on NBC’s show The Voice? We might not be holding a mic, singing for a little t.l.c. and approval. But, we do long for affection, emotional support, solidarity, humor, undivided listening, sex and so on....
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Simple signs that you might be a power couple

We might have guessed it as kids, while eating our peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. There are simple signs that you and your best buddy could become a power couple. In other words, that you’ve the potential for greater creativity and fulfillment thanks to your...
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After An Affair: Do I Stay Or Do I Leave?

After an affair, you might think the first big decision is “Do I stay or do I leave?” It’s not. Of course, we don’t really need the Game of Thrones to teach us about marriage, passion, betrayal and rage. Then again, it’s fire-ravaging dragons and...
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Guest Post: How A Bird Feeder Revived My Marriage

“How a Bird Feeder Revived My Marriage” is a guest-post written by TISTA SEN.  I post it here because decades of a relationship bring lonely, grumpy times.  Yet, Tista Sen reminds us how the little even-unwanted things might revive our relationships. How a Bird Feeder...
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Five Languages of Love, The Best-Seller Summarized

One could suppose that The Five Languages of Love: The Secret to Love that Lasts, written decades ago by Gary Chapman, is still a best-seller because we’re all trying to ensure our everlasting love–and his title promises that, though are we sure any book can deliver?...
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Childless? Want a baby? It turns out parenthood is worse than divorce, job-loss — even a partner’s death

It turns out parenthood is worse than divorce, job-loss — and even the death of a partner. This surprises persons who, childless, feel only despair if they cannot “have” a baby.  Similarly, if you’re thinking a baby will save the marriage, just the opposite —...
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We All Splash In It: Superiority. But It Can Drown A Good Relationship

“Superiority and subsequently contempt is the kiss of death,” says Dr. John Gottman, a leading expert in the empirical research of marriages. What’s worse is that most of us don’t even notice it’s earliest emergence in our relationship. It’s...
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Thirteen Questions to Ask Before You Marry — And After

This month, in the Field Notes of The New York Times (Sunday, March 27), Eleanor Stanford gives us this no-kidding statement: “When it comes to marriage, what you don’t know really can hurt you.” Although she could be referring to affairs, she’...
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